How to Fall in Love with Your Boudoir Photos
(Even If You're Not Feeling It Yet)
Let’s be real: looking at photos of yourself can feel… awkward as hell. If you’ve ever squirmed at your own image or picked yourself apart before even taking a full breath, you’re not alone. As a Brisbane boudoir Photographer, I see that reaction all the time, but it’s learned, and we can absolutely unlearn it.
Here’s how to flip the script and actually feel good when you see yourself on screen.
That “Ugh, Is That Me?” Feeling? Totally Normal.
You’re not broken. You’ve just been trained to zoom in on flaws, not fire. We’ve spent years absorbing messages about how we should look and when the photo doesn’t match that? Cue the self-cringe.
But the first thought you have when you see a photo? That’s not the truth. That’s conditioning. You get to rewrite it.
Flip It: One Negative = Two Positives
Every time your brain serves up a harsh thought, clap back with two compliments. Not even joking, this works. Maybe it’s your eyes, your smirk, or how damn powerful your posture looks. Find the good and say it out loud. Yes, out loud. Rewire that brain.
That Voice in Your Head? It’s Not You
That first reaction? That’s your inner critic, not your true self. Pause. Breathe. Go deeper. You don’t have to love every photo immediately. But showing yourself kindness, even if it feels fake at first, is the first step to real confidence. Fake it till you feel it? Science says it works.
Phone a Friend (Your Personal Hype Crew)
Still stuck in your head? Get a second set of eyes, a bestie, a partner, someone who sees you with love. Let them remind you of what you’re too close to see: you look incredible. You’re radiating energy. You’re a whole damn vibe.
Affirm It + Give It Time
Have a few affirmations ready to go. Think: “I am allowed to feel proud of myself,” or “I am more than one moment on camera.” Repeat them until they stick.
And if you’re still feeling weird about your photos? That’s okay too. Let them sit. Revisit them in a week, or a month. Time has this sneaky way of softening our self-judgement.
Here’s the bottom line:
You don’t have to love every angle. But you do deserve to see yourself with softness and respect. Every photo is proof that you showed up. You were bold. You took the damn shot.
So the next time you look at your photos, remember: this isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence.
You’re art, babe. Own it.